🚩 Red Flag Scanner
Paste a conversation. The scanner rates relationship health (0–10), highlights the exact quotes that should concern you, and explains what each pattern means — from mild inconsistency to active manipulation.
Green flags too — so you know which signals to trust when she's actually being honest.
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Example input · 6 weeks in, mixed-signals context
Relationship Health
Three distinct patterns in five messages: discrediting her ex, future-faithing you ("you're different"), and a monetary ask with a suspicious framing. Individually any one is a yellow flag. Together, at week 6, they're a cluster you shouldn't ignore.
Red Flags
"My ex was obsessed with me… had to block him."
Discrediting the ex within 6 weeks is a predictor. She's setting a narrative in which partners are crazy and she's the normal one — a frame you'll eventually be cast into.
high"Can you venmo me $80 for the uber, my bank thing still isn't working."
Financial requests with vague excuses ("my bank thing") and future promises ("totally pay you back") at week 6 are the classic pattern. Real friends pay back. People testing how much you'll front don't.
highYellow Flags
"You're different though. You actually get me."
Future-faithing — placing you on a pedestal early. Feels great, performs the role of "he's special" before you've done anything to earn it. The pedestal comes off the moment you disappoint her.
"Lol it was ok."
Dismissive pivot away from your question. Every time you ask about her life she gives one syllable and redirects — she's either guarded or disinterested. At 6 weeks neither is good.
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Use it when…
Something feels off
You can't put your finger on it but the texture of the conversation isn't right. The scanner names what your gut is sensing.
She's asking for money
Small amounts, plausible reasons, good timing. Run the conversation through before sending anything — even $20.
Coming out of a bad one
Your last relationship taught you to ignore signals. The scanner gives you external validation so you trust yourself again.
Mixed signals
Hot-and-cold, pulls close then pushes away. Get clarity on whether it's attachment style, game-playing, or something worse.
Online-only so far
You haven't met yet but something in the chat feels wrong. Catch catfishes, scammers, and emotional bait before you invest time.
Sanity check
You think she's great but want a second opinion before you invest more. Better to spend 30 seconds now than 6 months later.
"I was about to Venmo her $200 for 'a flight emergency'. Ran the thread through the scanner first — two red flags, high severity, exact breakdown of the pattern. Blocked her the same night. Turns out she'd been running the same script on guys for months."
Common questions
Is this for dangerous relationships or normal ones?
Both. The scanner works across the full range — from "she's pulling back, am I imagining it?" to "I think I'm being manipulated". Most sessions return yellow flags, not red.
Can it detect abuse?
It detects conversational patterns consistent with emotional manipulation — gaslighting phrases, DARVO, love-bombing, silent treatment, financial coercion. It's not a clinical diagnosis. If you're in an abusive situation, please contact a local support line.
What about my own red flags?
The scanner can also identify patterns you're bringing — anxious pursuing, avoidant withdrawal, controlling phrasing. You can paste a thread where you suspect you're the problem and it'll tell you.
Does it work on non-English conversations?
Yes — it reads any major European language. Accuracy is highest in English but reliable in Italian, Spanish, French, German, Portuguese.
Is this included in Core?
Yes — Red Flag Scanner is in Core ($19/mo) and Pro ($39/mo). Unlimited scans on either plan.
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